In this video from the 2020 Advanced Practice Group, John describes how leadership is an integrated expression of your cultivated masculine and feminine capacities.
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In this video from a discussion with John’s 2020 Advance Practice Group in the early months of the COVID-19 pandemic, he addresses the Masculine question of, “How do I structure space and time at home with my Feminine partner so that we can maximize polarity?”
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Take Full Responsibility for the Culture You Have Created
This is an area where many men get stuck. It takes tremendous courage, depth and insight; as well as ruthless honesty to look at where you have been neglectful, unconscious, selfish, stingy and maybe even downright abusive. Most will not have the constitution to truly look at how they have created, or at the very least, allowed an unhealthy culture to take hold in their love dynamics. It requires the skill of being able to hold to a firm truth in the face of resistance—without closing—that most have not cultivated. As a result, most men will either push too hard and try to impose their will by blaming, shaming, or dominating their partners; or they will quietly ignore the most important issues of the relationship and turn their attention elsewhere, where they are more apt to win. But eventually the dysfunction will get revealed and often by that time, the partners no longer see each other as healing lovers, but more like angry combatants.
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In these short videos from the February 2020 Valentine’s Intensive in Malibu, CA, John addresses two common habits we encounter with masculine leadership that often create disconnection — from both the feminine and masculine perspectives.
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In this video from the 2019 Embodied Men’s Leadership Training retreat in the California Panamint Valley Desert, John discerns the difference between earning a living and carrying out your life’s purpose.
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An excerpt from the Introduction of The Art of Masculine Leadership.
David Deida’s 1997 book The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire has all but become required reading for anyone entering the modern discourse and practice of men’s work. Selling over a quarter of a million copies and still ranking at the top of numerous Amazon categories, the book is a treatise on masculine spiritual development and intimacy that lays down a life altering possibility for men committed to deepening in their spiritual and sexual lives. It certainly changed my life, along with countless other men I know. In terms of impact and longevity, it stands heads and shoulders above any other book in the space, including men’s work classics like Robert Bly’s Iron John and Sam Keen’s Fire in the Belly.
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In this video from the June 2019 Art of Fearless Intimacy intensive in New York, John and Kendra bring awareness to the experience of the feminine walking around in the world.
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In this video from the May 2019 Embodied Men's Leadership Intensive in Mount Shasta, John describes ways in which you can open a moment and lead your relationship when your feelings are hurt.
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